Because this blog has always been for me to express my true, raw opinions and feelings, I cannot allow myself to hold in what is begging to be written. I am proud to write this. I am blessed to have the freedom to write this. I am not asking you to agree with me. I am, however, requesting that you read this with an open mind and an understanding that it is fueled by love, not anger or disgust. For me, this fight for equality is personal, because some of the people that I love most and am closest to happen to be gay. I have watched them become who they are, and I know how hard they have had to struggle just to be able to be the people they were meant to be. I have seen them be insulted, assaulted, and made fun of, and all because they were holding the hand of the person they love the most in this world. I have seen people judge them as soon as they hear them speak. I have heard them cry over the way people have treated them because they are gay. And, these are the people that have loved me NO MATTER WHAT. They took me for who I really was, and they accepted me and loved me with the kind of loyalty that is rare in this world. They have held me in my darkest hours. They have supported me throughout numerous relationships and the tumultuous breakups that followed. They have defended me without a moment's hesitation. So, it is my honor to do the same for them. It is my absolute pleasure.
I think that the Christians that oppose the ban being lifted are forgetting that God made each of us- gay or straight -and it is not our place to judge another man when we are all sinners. The Bible, which they so often quote in their retorts, also says that no one sin is worse than another. And, the last time I checked, we're all too far from perfect to point our fingers at one another. Do not assume that gay individuals do not believe in God, because many of them do, and they do it with the same amount of dedication and loyalty as many straight men and women. I think the rest of the people that oppose the legalization of gay marriage are forgetting that a gay marriage is still the union of two people that truly love each other. I cannot imagine someone telling me that the love I have for Russell is not valid or legitimate. I would be devastated if I was not legally allowed to marry him one day. And, that is how we should look at it, because a homosexual relationship is not as different from one between a heterosexual couple as many people believe. The only difference is that people feel entitled to openly judge and criticize a gay couple, whether it be on the street, in a restaurant, inside a movie theater, in a friend's home, in the grocery store, or during Sunday brunch with their families.
To be honest, I don't know anybody with a perfect marriage, but I do know many people that have been divorced, and a couple that married for the wrong reasons. We allow them to make mistakes. We allow them to marry the wrong person. We allow them to marry without having to do anything but show their licenses. So, even if someone thinks that marrying someone of the same sex is wrong, why are they so against giving people the chance to find that out for themselves, like straight people get to do? Who in the hell do these people think they are? We most often make vows in weddings in the name of God, not in the name of the government of the United States of America. So, let God make these decisions, people. Worry about yourself and leave the rest to God. I'd say that He's done a pretty good job so far.
2 comments:
Very well spoken! Who is anyone to judge? Love is important. Love is important at birth, childhood and continues through adulthood. Love is something you seek forever through life. All most people seek in life is to feel love and know they are capable of loving and being loved back. All anyone wants is to feel wanted. That applies to straight people, gay people, and all people. That's what people need to remember. Remember that moment you fell in love and didn't mean too; the time you stared at your ceiling praying to feel love; remember that feeling and note, that's what God does for us. He is the final judgment call. Until that day, he tells us to love thy neighbor.
Love is the only omnipotent thng there is!
Well said Haley, I hope you'll keep writing here it gives me such hope for the state of Ala!
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